“Of all the Wing reunionists who gathered at the first memorable reunion at Sandwich in 1902, perhaps the one who made the greatest impression upon the assembled kinspeople because of her wit, amiability, talents and sociability was Elizabeth Hoxie Ware. She entered upon the spirit of the occasion with zest and great fraternal love. She was the life of every group she mingled with and was indefatigable in planning and carrying out little excursions that brought out the beauties and historical associations of Sandwich. No less active was her genial husband, Justin A. Ware.
At the second reunion, she read a charming paper and upon another occasion, read her beautiful poem. ‘Deborah Wing,’ which unmistakably added to the wealth of lore of our family history.
‘Cousin Elizabeth,’ as we all loved to call her, was the daughter of Joseph and Mary (Holway) Hoxie, and she was born and passed her childhood in the charming old Hoxie homestead at East Sandwich. She was the granddaughter of Deborah Wing, the daughter of Paul, (Zaccheus, Daniel, Daniel, Rev. John, Matthew), and was reared in the Quaker faith of her ancestors.
Possessed of a keen humor, she has related to us much of the austerities of the stern and severe life of a little girl in a strict Quaker home. Thru the center of the old Friends’ meeting house at Spring Hill runs a high board partition separating the ‘men’ from the ‘women.’ ‘Cousin Elizabeth’ directed our attention to one particular pew in which were generally seated the Hoxie family. In the board partition was a knot-hole, and the Quaker matron told us with great zest how her boyhood lover managed to sit in the pew on the ‘man’s side’ and how the youthful lovers would interlock fingers thru the knot-hole during the long, silent waits for the ‘spirit to move.’
Elizabeth was born on the 7th month, 8th day, 1847, and she married, 4th month, 25th day, 1872, Justin A., son of Alonzo and Lucy Ware of Worcester, Mass. They made their home at Worcestor for many years, where Mr. Ware was the Superintendent of a large manufacturing plant. About the year 1903, owing to Mr. Ware’s failing health, they came to Sandwich and established themselves at East Sandwich in one of the old Wing homsteads, in which they have entertained reunionists on at least two occasions. Then for a short time they managed a hotel for summer guests at Winthrop Beach. Mr. Ware died in 1908.
The death of her husband greatly afflicted ‘Cousin Elizabeth.’ A shadow came across her life and paralyzed her once brilliant mind, altho she retained a happy disposition to the last. Her mental vision was clouded. She made her home with her daughter, Mrs. Alice Armstrong, at East Sandwich, and there she died on Thursday morning, March
27,1909, in her 72d year.
Her funeral took place the following First Day, and she lies by the side of her Quaker ancestors in the old Friends’ burial ground at Spring Hill.
She is survived by her sisters, Mrs. Abby Newell Webber of Beverly and Mrs. Hannah G. Ryder of Medford; one son, Arthur, of Jeff, Ky., and one daughter. Mrs. Alice Armstrong of East Sandwich.”
Source: The Owl, Vols. 18-21, by the Wing Family of America, 1916, pages 1888-9